My Birth Plan

I had never heard of a birth plan until I got pregnant myself and was reading up on everything I needed to get ready for my son’s birth. Personally, I think it’s a great idea, if used the right way. I’ll give you my own personal experience with it.

When I first made the plan, I looked up a whole bunch of sample ones online to see what kind of information I needed to include on there. I think my list covers pretty much everything so feel free to use it as a guide. I found a few blank templates online as well, but none that included all the info I needed, so I ended up making my own (I had time to kill, clearly πŸ™‚ )

My first draft was 5 pages long….let’s just say even I, myself, knew I had to revise it and make it shorter…a lot shorter! When you make your list keep in mind that you are going to give this to nurses and doctors so they know how to proceed with you. But don’t forget that while they’ll be taking care of you, there are at least 5 more patients they are looking after as well. So the goal is to make it as succinct as possible and short enough to where they are willing to read all of it. Imagine if you were a nurse, rushing and someone hands you pages and pages of “instructions” on what they prefer for their hospital stay. Maybe you’re better than me, but I would be annoyed having to read it all and most likely wouldn’t remember much of it. So I shortened my list and got it down to 2 pages.

My recommendation would also be to make it a bulletin style type of plan. It is easier to read. At first I had these long paragraphs, then I thought “who am I kidding! I don’t even want to read this myself, let alone them” so I switched it to bulletins. “Huge help” my nurse said when she saw it!

Make at least 5 copies of it. Tape one on the door of your hospital room for anyone to see when they come in (nurses change shifts, or even forget when they go from room to room), and the other 4 hand them to whomever is taking care of you.

And lastly, you have to realize that this is just a guideline. Do not expect to have everything happen as you plan or wish. I know this better than anyone, because I truly have a problem accepting it when things just don’t go as I had planned. I get upset, I lose my cool, and then I feel weird and just not at peace. This is something I am working on daily. But please be prepared now and know that at least one thing won’t go the way you had originally thought it would…and guess what? It will be OKAY! The goal here is to come out healthy and happy with a beautiful baby πŸ™‚

Here’s my birth plan:

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Hope this helps!

Egreis Gjergjani

(PS. Depending on the hospital/doctor/nurse some of the things on your list they may not agree to. Check with their policies. More often than not you have the right to choose whatever it is that you are asking for. If they say no, it’s because they simply don’t like to get out of their routine way of doing things…but not because you aren’t allowed to by law. So put your foot down on things that matter to you. I had to when it came to Vitamin K and the shots. They tried telling me it was mandatory until I pulled up their entire policy and proved them wrong. Do not let others pressure you either. I recommend you do your research before you decide to choose anything; and once you do, stick to it. Only YOU know what’s best for your child. I promise).

22 comments on My Birth Plan

  1. Kec
    May 20, 2014 at 11:24 pm (3 years ago)

    Hi Egi, thanks for sharing this! I’m curious why no vitamin k or shots? Is that bad for the baby? I’m pregnant with my first one and would love to hear your thoughts.

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    • Anonymous
      May 23, 2014 at 4:23 am (3 years ago)

      She answered above.

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  2. Cheyenne
    May 20, 2014 at 11:40 pm (3 years ago)

    Why didn’t you want the eye drops or vitamin K? Also what did it do for you to hold Gio while you were delivering the placenta ?! I just want to get as much information as I can πŸ™‚

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    • Egreis Gjergjani
      May 21, 2014 at 2:38 am (3 years ago)

      Vitamin K is for blood clot purposes. Most newborns do not have any blood clotting, and therefore do not need Vitamin K. It is administered so that it helps a baby in case he/she does experience blood clotting. But from what I’ve read, the doctors can see signs of blood clotting in your placenta. And if you deliver placenta, and things look ok, there is no need for the Vitamin K. If they see issues, then of course it’s advised to let them give the baby the shot. So I followed that same path. I held Gio for 2 hours straight without them doing anything to him. It wasn’t so much that I wanted to hold him while delivering my placenta, but more the fact that I just simply wanted him to be skin on skin with me, for as long as possible so he could feel safe, loved, and bond with me.

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      • Susie
        October 4, 2014 at 9:31 pm (3 years ago)

        I’m a postpartum nurse. Vitamin K is to help the baby’s blood clot. You WANT normal clotting. It prevents hemorrhage. You are stating like it is to stop the baby clotting. It is actually the exact opposite. Especially a boy who is to be circumcised should have the Vit K. You are acting like the injections we give are harmful to your baby when in fact they have a purpose, backed by significant and extensive scientific research. You are not a medical professional. It is people like you who look things up online and have no idea what they’re talking about, who make our jobs so difficult. Realize we are trained professionals who go through A LOT of difficult and rigorous schooling, and are here to HELP you and your newborn.

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  3. Magdalena
    May 21, 2014 at 1:59 am (3 years ago)

    Just wondering what made you have Gio circumcised.. I’ve read a lot about it and there’s no studies showing there’s any advantage to it..

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    • Egreis Gjergjani
      May 21, 2014 at 2:33 am (3 years ago)

      I did it because his father and brother has it as well, and I want them to look the same. If for any reason he sees them in the future, I don’t want him to get confused as to why his is different. Also, I’m not sure which studies you have read, but according to the 2012 research done by John Hopkins research group, “the health benefits of circumcision include lower risks of acquiring HIV, genital herpes, human papilloma virus and syphilis. Circumcision also lowers the risk of penile cancer over a lifetime; reduces the risk of cervical cancer in sexual partners, and lowers the risk of urinary tract infections in the first year of life,” – (http://www.cnn.com/2012/08/27/health/circumcision-policy/)

      So all in all, you will find studies that show that it is in fact healthier, and some that show that it isn’t. My opinion is that you choose what you think it’s best for your kid.

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      • Magdalena
        May 21, 2014 at 10:45 am (3 years ago)

        Ohhhh ok, I actually haven’t read THAT much about it but what I was referring to was http://www.itactamerica.org it actually says the opposite of what you just said above, but thank you for responding, I was just wondering
        Xoxox

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  4. Yoki
    May 21, 2014 at 4:24 am (3 years ago)

    What’s wrong with the eye drops?

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    • Egreis Gjergjani
      May 21, 2014 at 4:43 am (3 years ago)

      They’re given to the baby to protect them from any eye infections they can get during delivery. Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) including gonorrhea and chlamydia are a main cause of newborn eye infections. These infections can cause blindness if not treated.

      Since I know I don’t have any STD’s or STI’s I knew that my child didn’t need protection from these kind of infections. So I decided to skip it.

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  5. Rosa
    May 21, 2014 at 3:31 pm (3 years ago)

    Well first and formost I want to say congrats on Gio he is gorgeous and I’m sho happy for u and ur family. I follow you on Instagram and was ecstatic to hear you were blogging again cause I missed reading about ur life. I wanted to know if you were planning on vaccinating Gio and if not I wanted to know why not and I would like to read a blog about that if possible cause I see a lot of mothers are going in that path including your friend Jennifer Estano and wanted to know your views on it. Thank you so much for being so open with us and even taking the time out to blog.

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  6. Sholanlly
    May 21, 2014 at 4:22 pm (3 years ago)

    Hi, Egi well prepared birth plan & really helpful tips. I cant wait to finish reading the rest. Also, i love the colors you choose for your house they are Adorable and well- structured with your funitures, keep us posted please. I was wondering why you wanted to save the placenta after giving birth?

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    • Egreis Gjergjani
      May 21, 2014 at 4:30 pm (3 years ago)

      I ended up turning them into pills and taking daily. There are many benefits to it. You should research online. There are so many articles that go into detail about it.

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  7. Camilla
    May 22, 2014 at 1:20 am (3 years ago)

    Thank you for showing us your birth plan. I love how organized and straight to the point it is! So very helpful as I am in the process of making my own. I will have to look into the Vitamin K shot, as I was told it was important if the baby is going to be circumcised. I’d prefer no shots as well; however, I haven’t decided on the Lidocaine injection for the circumcision. May I ask what you decided?

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  8. Amanda
    May 22, 2014 at 4:02 am (3 years ago)

    Hi Egi,

    We are expecting our baby boy to arrive in July. I love your birth plan and ours will be fairly similar. I wanted to ask how it went with breastfeeding exclusively. Did that part work out to plan or did you have to supplement with formula?

    Follow me on IG – mrs_toth
    Thanks!
    Amanda

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    • Egreis Gjergjani
      May 22, 2014 at 4:04 am (3 years ago)

      Hi Amanda,
      Congrats!!
      Fortunately for us, breastfeeding worked, and still is working great. I have pretty good supply but I stuck with it no matter what, even on the days where it felt like it was low or not enough. So just hang in there and it will be okay. And if your baby is not gaining weight then you can always supplement in addition to breastfeeding.

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  9. Anay a
    May 22, 2014 at 5:11 am (3 years ago)

    I had a birth plan in the beginning and I pretty much stuck with it, except for the unmediated birth. I had an epidural. I was having (or what I thought it was) Braxton hicks for two weeks. The day before my water broke, they were stronger and I ended up staying up for apart 24hrs. When my water broke we immediate went in bc my contractions were close and I figured I progressed past 2cm from my earlier that week checkup. I get to the hospital and I’m dead tired. I didn’t progress at all even after 8 hours. My baby girl heart rate kept dropping with every contraction. They put a monitor on her head and then eventually started the pitocin. I needed the epidural. That alone was horrible. Since I’m so small they had trouble finding the spot. But when it was finally time to push the epidural wore off so I felt her! It was an amazing experience still. Although now I know what labor is like I don’t want to do it again lol maybe bc I’m still in pain. My doctor (on duty) was awesome and nurse was amazing. I did feel like I was royalty there lol my birthing suite was definitely bigger than my living room lol

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  10. Cristina
    May 24, 2014 at 12:42 am (3 years ago)

    I just want to say that I think everything about you is beautiful. Thank you for sharing so much of your life with us. Baby Gio is so handsome and you are the sweetest most lovely mother. You are an inspiration and I look forward to seeing what you share each day, so thank you. Oh, and your shoes/shoe closet are not so bad to look at either… he he.

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  11. Christine Martinez
    June 3, 2014 at 5:57 pm (3 years ago)

    I have read all of your pregnancy articles and I just have to thank you for your honesty and sharing your experience with us, I love your birth plan I am using it as a guideline for mine I am 24 and I am due to have my first baby Sept. 3rd, like you, because of my research I have decided not to have any unnecessary medical procedures when my baby girl is born like the vitamin k, eye drops etc. even tho I feel pressure from friends/family to basically do what doctors says you should do but your experience has shown me that its up to me! You are really inspiring and I’m so happy to have read your story!

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  12. Roxy
    June 6, 2014 at 12:41 am (3 years ago)

    Hi!
    Just wanted to know why you decided on no vaccines for Gio?

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  13. Kim
    September 23, 2014 at 12:49 pm (3 years ago)

    HI!

    Thank you so much for taking the time to share your happy moments with us, it makes me excited for what’s to come. I will be having my baby by the end of October, and I am also going to encapsulate my placenta. I was wondering, did you do the RAW or traditional Chinese method for the encapsulation?

    Thank you πŸ™‚

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  14. Jane
    February 11, 2015 at 4:11 pm (2 years ago)

    Loved reading about your delivery and totally inspired by your birthing plan. I was wondering what books you read to prepare for everything. I’m 13 weeks pregnant and would also like to be as prepared and informed as possible.. I’m currently reading what to expect … And the mayo clinic version. Thanks in advance!

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