All About Nursing – My Experience

Baby | Sep 26, 2014

I’ve been meaning to write this for a while, and before I begin I want to make sure you realize that:
a) This is just my experience with breastfeeding
b) We are all different and unique and so are our bodies and
c) I’m not a breastfeeding expert nor a lactation specialist
but I am a new mommy who has managed to successfully breastfeed for almost ten months now (and plan on doing so for a bit longer too).

The beginning stages – before I knew ANYTHING about breastfeeding

Egreis gjergjani Before I got pregnant, I knew nothing about pregnancy, a woman’s body during pregnancy, the changes that occur, when lactation occurs, or really anything pertaining to it. I went on a pregnancy books spree (I will share those books on another post) and spent the entire 9 (more like 10) months reading and trying to take it all in.

I remember before I hit the books I asked my hubby this “sooo ummm when does the milk come? Before birth? Or right when I give birth…?” and I felt soooo embarrassed that I was asking HIM; a man!!!! But my husband does have experience with his other 3 children even though it was LONG time ago. He laughed and proceeded to tell me that for most women milk supply comes 3-4 days after birth. Sometimes sooner, sometimes later. And for a few it may never come.

Breastfeeding – A Personal Choice

Where I’m from, breastfeeding is a part of raising a baby. Very rarely do women NOT breastfeed. I don’t even think they consider that as an option UNLESS they have to (no milk or not enough of it). Now I did leave Albania a decade ago so things might have changed. I know the newer generation is more concerned about aesthetics and overall body image so I wouldn’t be surprised if the use of formula has increased over the last few years. But me personally, I have never even thought about NOT breastfeeding. I consider it to be a very natural part of birthing and raising a child. Not to mention all of the benefits that come with it.

Before I proceed with my experience and additional information, let me state first and foremost that I WILL NEVER and I mean truly NEVER judge another woman, let alone a mother, on the decisions she makes when it comes to her life, her family, and her child. It’s not for me to care nor judge. What works for me, may not work for another, and quite honestly, as long as it doesn’t affect me personally, I do not care what they do and i mean that in the nicest way possible. Whether a mother chooses to breastfeed or not, it’s her decision and her decision only. Some women are blessed enough to be able to breastfeed exclusively; some produce milk but not enough so they have to supplement; some unfortunately do not produce any; others can but choose not to whether it’s because they have to go back to work and pumping is hard and unmanageable or maybe because they just don’t want or like to breastfeed. My point is that we are all different. And while yes, there are a LOT of benefits to breastfeeding, please DO NOT FEEL BADLY OR GUILTY for using formula or making that decision. I do not judge you, and quite honestly, you shouldn’t care what ANYONE says or thinks about it. It is your decision and your decision only and your child will grow up to be FINE.

I think today’s society is soooo uptight and so quick to jump down people’s throat and tell them what they think. Why? I’ll never understand what the point is of “telling people your opinion” or as they usually like to say “speaking your mind because you have freedom of speech”? Why? What do you gain? And when you know (because 99% of the time they do know) that it will insult or belittle someone else, why do it? So to the mothers reading this who do not breastfeed, do not take my experience and my decision to breastfeed as me putting you down. Our children will BOTH grow up to very healthy and very smart 🙂

My First Days With Gio & The Beginning Of Our Nursing

birth 6Gio was born 8 lbs and 4 oz. Not very meaty though, so everyone was kind of shocked he weigh that much. The two days following birth my milk had not come in yet. I was frustrated. To be honest, I had been frustrated over it for weeks before his birth. I was just afraid I wouldn’t have enough. None of the women in my family had an issue with it, but I had a breast augmentation two years ago and even though I made sure my doctor knew I intended on breastfeeding in the future, I was afraid that somehow it would affect it. So that was stressful. Now that I look back I probably slowed down the process of my milk coming in on my own. Stress plays a BIG role in your milk supply. Many times women who are stressed will lose their supply completely. So it’s important to relax and let nature do its thing. If it doesn’t come, then deal with it then. But not before. I wish I had done that.

Gio lost one full pound the first 3 days. If you look at my birth plan I posted a few weeks ago, I was very much against him taking any formula. But I am also a realist. If my child lost 1 pound which is more than 10% of his body weight, then whether I wanted to or not I had to do what was best for him and supplement with some formula. So my husband and I decided to supplement for a day and see how it affected him. I had read a lot and one of the tips I had gotten from some of the books I read was that if the milk supply had not come in yet, and formula had to be used, in order to stimulate the milk ducts it was recommended that I let my baby nurse on me for 20 mins on each side before I gave him any formula. This way my body would realize that there’s a hungry baby that needs milk and it would start doing its thing.

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By day 4 my milk came in. For those that do not know, your body actually produces what is called “colostrum” during pregnancy and it lasts until the first few days after birth. It is a yellowish/creamy liquid that  your child will get the first few days of his/her life. Then the milk will come in (hopefully). But it is VERY important to stimulate your breasts so that the milk does come in. Here’s the easiest way to put it: the longer your baby nurses (even if he’s not getting anything), the more milk your body will produce. Why? Because the amount of time that the baby spends on the boob will signal your body that this baby is hungry and it needs a large supply of milk to be full, which is why he/she is nursing for so long. So even if you know you are not producing any milk and have to give your baby formula, put him or her on your boob for as long as possible. And make sure you alternate boobs (whether you do 20-30 mins on a boob one time and alternate to the other boob the next time he feeds, or break up the feeding into halves: one half on each boob).

3Once my milk came, I stopped supplementing. I wasn’t sure if I was making enough though, so I nursed Gio a lot, and I mean a LOT of times a day. When you first start breastfeeding for the first time, you have no clue what you’re doing, how you’re doing it, whether the baby is getting enough, whether you are making enough, etc. When Gio was first born, I put him immediately on my boob and he nursed for an hour and a half. There was nothing really there (maybe bits of colostrum) but I knew he wasn’t really drinking for that long. I did it more for the bonding part of it and more importantly to establish a good latch. I was lucky in that he latched perfectly the first time he tried it.

Here is a great article on how to latch your baby the right way. Also, there are lactation specialists in the hospital if you give birth in one, that will be more than happy to come and help you and show you some tips. I definitely recommend speaking with one.


Breastfeeding: Painful At First or Not – LATCHING

I had read that breastfeeding could be very painful in the beginning. But I also realized that this happens only when the baby is not latching on properly. This can cause pain and discomfort. So it’s extremely crucial that you learn how to put your baby on your nipple the right way. Keep in mind that practice does make better. And even if you think your child has latched on great and it still hurts, stick to it. Within a few days it will get better. I promise. Gio latched on right away and I have never experienced the initial pain most mothers complain about. But I have experienced the teething one 🙂 I’ll get into it a little later.

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There are many reasons why a baby does not latch properly or why latching never occurs. Please take a look at this article that explains all the possible reasons why this may be happening. Some of these reasons are not necessarily something you are doing or not doing, but rather an anatomy question. For example: cleft palate, nipple size, tight frenulum, etc.

It’s important to be patient and persistent when it comes to breastfeeding. If all things normal and the docs have cleared you from any possible issues, then it’s a matter of patiently waiting and continuing to try your best to nurse at all times. The first few days of a baby’s life, it’s not so much about him/her actually drinking anything, but rather latching on properly and continuing to do so until the supply is enough to satisfy your baby.

How To Increase Your Milk Supply? 

The best thing you can do is what I mentioned earlier, and that is to NURSE, NURSE, NURSE even if you think that the baby is not getting ANYTHING! Signal your body and let it know that it needs to produce more in order for your baby to be satisfied. The longer you nurse, the more your body will make!

 

In addition to that, there are some things you could do to help increase your milk supply. The number 1 thing I was recommended was WATER. Think about it, milk is liquid. Your body is making it. Unless you feed your body all kinds of water or liquid (whether it’s soup, juice, fruit with water in it like watermelon, or oranges, etc) there is no way your body will be able to make milk. You can’t feed yourself carbs and expect a ton of water to come out. So drink AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE. They gave me this huge plastic jug of water at the hospital and I would fill it up first thing in the morning and just walk around with it. They have some similar ones on amazon. Check them out.

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What I personally used is the MotherLove: More Milk Plus capsules. They worked wonders for me. Completely natural. Another one I used is also the Nature’s Way Fenugreek capsules. They describe on the bottle what the intake should be, when and how to take them.

Another great food that helps with milk supply is oatmeal. The beginning stages of my breastfeeding experience I had oatmeal every morning. Once my supply was good enough I slowly let go of the capsules and by then I had had enough oatmeal, I didn’t want any more haha. Here’s an article on baby center that breaks down some of the food that can help with increasing your milk supply.

And lastly, another thing my pediatrician told me would help with producing more milk was pumping.

All About Pumping

I have been a stay at home mom the entire time since I had Gio. Therefore, pumping hasn’t been something I’ve really focused on. But, the first month, especially in the beginning when I was trying to stimulate my nipples into making more milk, I pumped a bunch. I continued to pump whenever Gio was asleep mainly because a) I was engorged and it was hurting and b) because at night time, Gio would fall asleep on my boob and never really drink enough to make him full and last. So he would wake up literally 6 times at night to feed. But once I started pumping and making 4 ounce bottles ready for bedtime, he started sleeping better and for longer periods of time. Don’t get me wrong, he still woke up, but instead of every hour or so, he would do it every 4 hours. And at that stage, when you are barely getting any sleep or rest to begin with, 4 hours is MAGICAL!

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About a month or so ago, I made a post on EVERYTHING YOU WILL NEED IF YOU’RE HAVING A BABY. Take a look to see all of the details and products I got. There is a section in there that I talk specifically about breast pumps and bottles. That will give you an idea of what I used and whether it worked.

I nursed Gio 95% of the time, and would give him bottle at night, and once he finished that, I would top him off on my boob (more so that I could continue stimulating my body for more milk than anything else). But he never had an issue with taking bottles or nursing. He didn’t mind either as long as he got milk. Now, some babies are different. There are some that just won’t accept a bottle after being nursed. And others that won’t go back to the nursing once having experienced a bottle. If your baby won’t accept the bottle, my recommendation would be to let your partner or someone else feed your baby, and leave the room! Your baby can smell you up to 10 feet away. And they’re smart! They know that if you are there, that means your boobs are too! And well, they love the comfort of your skin, your body heat and so on.

On the other hand, if your baby won’t go back to nursing after having experienced the bottle, that is because your child got “spoiled” with getting so much milk so easily through a bottle, that he/she no longer wants to put in the hard work to get milk from your boob. My recommendation would be to no longer give him/her the bottle and stick to nursing. Sure, he won’t want it first, or two or three times, but guess what? He will get hungry. And then he will nurse. If you don’t feel comfortable with that, then just pump pump pump and save it all for him.

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I stopped pumping around 5 months. Because I’m near Gio all the time, I decided to just stick to nursing him. I started introducing solids around 6 months, so at night time I prepare solids for him on top of nursing him so that he is nice and full for bed time.

I don’t know how the working mothers do it. I know it’s extremely hard and frustrating to pump. At times you get a lot, and other times you barely get any. And if you are not at home nursing your child all the time, you have to continually pump often so that your milk supply doesn’t diminish. Props to you I have to say!!! It’s so hard keeping it up. It was hard with me, and I was home. Let alone being away in an office or at work somewhere and having to go on a break and go pump in the car or wherever. It’s dedication! I’m amazed!

Is Your Baby Getting Enough?

As I mentioned earlier, as a new mom I had NO clue what the signs were of a baby that was actually drinking and was full. I would just hold him on my boob and nurse him for as long as he wanted to be on it. It wasn’t until a month or so later that I started learning the difference between him nursing for comfort and him nursing to actually drink. The number one for me was the gulping sound I heard. Also, when he was actually drinking and there was enough milk I would watch him take these long gulps, rather than the very quick, almost silent ones when he’s comforting.

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Other signs your baby is getting enough milk are the wet diapers he has. Doctors will often ask you at each visit how many wet diapers he has a day. 6-8 wet ones a day is considered normal and that your baby is getting plenty of food. Another sign, and a more obvious one is t watch their weight. In the first month babies typically gain around 5-10 ounces a week. Check with your pediatrician to make sure your child is gaining the weight he/she is supposed to.

Read this article for detailed information on how long and how often you should feed your baby, whether you are breastfeeding or pumping, or using formula.

Is Your Baby Getting Too Much?

If your baby is exclusively breastfed, let me tell you this: THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH BREASTMILK! I happened to have a nice, beautiful, chubby baby. He loves to nurse, and has nursed since he was born. Yes he is chunky but he is breastfed. The beauty about breastfeeding is that there is no such thing as too much for your child. Babies cannot overdose on breastmilk as long as they are 2 years old and under. Ask your doctor. They can explain far better than I can 🙂

If your baby got too much milk, he will either stop nursing, spit up, hiccup, fuss, etc but nothing about it is unhealthy. He won’t have to be put on a diet or milk restriction. His body can manage and regulate it all.

My Nursing Schedule

A lot of people told me to put Gio on a schedule. I personally did not think it was the right thing for us. Gio has always been the “i want to be held all day long” kind of baby. He also nursed a lot, especially the first 4 months. I felt like a milk machine, but I knew that I was doing the right thing for him. He has never been a fussy baby, colic, or a cry baby in general. If he ever did cry I knew that something was bothering him. But rarely has he just fussed just because. As long as he was held, rocked, nursed he was one happy baby! I have been blessed in that regard. My husband tells me the other kiddos were not that easy, and that we had gotten lucky with him.

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Needless to say, I did not follow a schedule the first 4 months of his life. Once he got a bit older, and I started introducing regular food, I started a routine. Not necessarily a schedule, but rather a routine. I always give him the same breakfast everyday (I switch up the kinds of vegetables I add in the eggs) and milk. Same for lunch and dinner. Dinner, however, I give him whatever I have cooked for the rest of the family. I just blend it for him. But to get back to breastfeeding, I never followed a schedule. Now that he’s almost 10 months old, and I no longer exclusively breastfeed, I give him food and formula during the day, and only breastfeed right before nap times, and bed time. Also, whenever he needs comforting, I do give up the boobie right away, i’m not going to lie. Boobs just make everything so much better. 🙂

If you would rather have a schedule for your baby (keep in mind that whatever you decide there is no right or wrong. It’s just a matter of preference and what works best for you. Do not feel for any second that you have to choose what I did for my son. What works for me may not work for you so follow your instinct), here is an article that has some good tips on what a good breastfeeding schedule looks like.

Teething And Breastfeeding

Gio got his first teeth (two bottom ones came at the same exact time) the day before his fathers birthday, in May, when he was almost 6 months old. I was dreading the day. Part of me couldn’t wait because he had been teething so badly and was in pain and was being fussy weeks prior to it, but the other part of me was dreading the fact that now I was going to nurse a baby with teeth!

It hurts when Gio pinches my boobs and yanks them while he feeds, let alone him biting them! So there were a few times he did do that. Mainly when he wasn’t really hungry and was just playing basically. That’s when I firmly would say NO and pull him out of the boob. If I knew he was really nursing and not just using me for comfort, i would put him back on but after a minute or so. And if he did it again, I would do the same thing until he got it. Most of the time he did. And I got lucky, in that it didn’t happen all that often.

Now he has 4 teeth, with a 5th one coming in in just a matter of days, if not hours lol. It happens every now and then but overall he’s pretty good about it. Some people would tell me that when babies get teeth is when it’s time to stop. I personally disagree. Some babies are born with teeth, believe it or not. So that means the mothers should never breastfeed? I don’t think so. I think a baby can be trained to stop and not bite while feeding. Of course that requires being actually bit but that’s okay. I think it’s worth it.

This article explains some details and gives some tips on what to do if you have a biter in your hands!

Breastfeeding Accessories

When you are nursing, you need all the help and tools you can get, whether it’s comfortable nursing clothes, bras, tshirts, pillows, etc.

Here are some of my favorite:
Bras: (check picture below for actual breastfeeding bras). But a lot of times I just used regular sport bras in very large sizes.


Lounge wear: No particular nursing ones, but I went for super comfortable, cotton pjs that were a size bigger so they were loose and easy to pull up whenever I needed to nurse.
Teething/distraction necklaces: I wish I had discovered this sooner, but these necklaces are great for babies who are either teething or get bored while nursing and want to play yo-yo with your boobs. Give them a try.
Pillows: I never used one. I bought one, but never used it. So i’m honestly not a good judge of whether or not it helps. But I did use it for tummy time for Gio when he was little.

How Long Should You Nurse?

Only you can answer that for yourself. I will nurse for as long as I think it’s necessary. I don’t really have a date or time planned just yet. At first I thought maybe I would stop once he turned one, but now I’m thinking I will when the time is right and I trust that that time will come when I’ll make that decision.

Doctors will tell you different things: some think 6 months is enough, others say at least a year, and some other ones believe that you should nurse for as long as possible or when the baby signals you to stop and he/she no longer wants to nurse. I think it’s best to decide on your own and what you think is right. Noone knows you and your baby like you do.

Formula

I wrote this in my other post “Everything you will need if you’re having a baby”, but if you haven’t read it by any chance, here it is:

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“I’m not the best person to ask about baby formula. The only times I’ve used it has been in the beginning, when Gio lost weight in the hospital the first two days after he was born. And at home, every now and then when I felt like my supply has been low and he was still hungry.

My pediatrician recommend Enfamil when we were in the hospital. So that’s why I put it here. I don’t know if it’s that good or anything about it really. But I do trust my doctor so I decided to post i t. The one that I love is the Holle formula from Germany. It’s so good that I swear sometimes I drink some of it myself. It’s the closest thing to breastmilk I’ve tasted. The only downfall to it is that it comes from Germany and it is sold in Europe but not out here so you will have to buy it online. You can buy it here.

Breast feeding for me has been the most amazing experience ever. I wouldn’t trade it for the world. I don’t care if my boobs end up sagging from it (although it has been tested and proven that sagging occurs naturally, not necessarily from breastfeeding itself), or that they get engorged and I’m in pain. I was fortunate enough to have a great milk supply even after a breast augmentation. I made sure my boob job wasn’t going to affect it but you never know how your body reacts so I was happy I could produce. I would recommend it to any mother out there. Hate to say it to you but once you have a child, it is no longer about you. Yes you should still take care of yourself and your image, always, but your priority is no longer that. So if you choose not to breastfeed because of your appearance I would strongly suggest you to rethink. Breastfeeding creates such an amazing bond for mother and child, not to mention all of the health benefits associated with it. That’s my two cents on it. Do whatever works best for you. I judge no one. :)

For the moms that are trying so hard to breastfeed but are struggling with it, be patient and keep at it. It can be challenging, I know, but it is worth it. I am proud of you! If I missed anything on this post, please leave me a comment and I will be happy to add more/edit it.

xo,

Egreis

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  1. vanessa says:

    I always look forward to reading your posts. I do thank you for writing this!! With my first son I was able to nurse him until he was 9 months with out formula and working full time. This time around with my second I had to introduce formula around 5-6 months. I wish I could have gone longer like I did with my first but have come to realize that working, college, and being a wife and a mommy can be… Busy. Your post has lighten my day knowing that even though I had to introduce formula, I’m no less then being an awesome mommy.

  2. Isida_M says:

    Loved the article!!! My daughter lost 9% of her body weight at the hospital bc i refused to give formula and now i feel bad that i said no to that.. I payed for my decision i stayed an extra day till my daughter gained some weight.. I had a c section so my milk came late..(on the 5th day) i agree with you breastfeeding is one of the greatest thing i have experienced!!! I love your chubby little guy <3333

  3. Lorrein A. says:

    I absolutely love reading your blogs. Your the prime example of how every mother should try and be. Although we are not perfect we’ve created a little being that is so being precise in how you raise them is big! Gio is the cutest and you look amazing! Many blessings to your family.

  4. Ashley says:

    Thank you for sharing! I’m still struggling with breast feeding my son is now 2 weeks old. I also have breast augmentation but it caused some damage I think i just don’t produce enough! I still put him to my breast as long as he wants but had to supplement. I can only get 15 to 20 ml by pumping I do it every day every 2-3 hours and just mix with his formula. Thank you for this blog I was feeling like a horrible mom and regreating my surgery. But your right as long as my son is fed and healthy that’s all that matters! I’m s going to pump as long as I can and your right the motherlove does help!

  5. Sara says:

    We have very similar experiences. Our sons are 2 days apart and my son’s nickname is also Gio because his first name starts with a g and his middle name starts with an o. They also almost weighed the exact same at birth, my son weighed 8lb6oz. I also had low milk supply the first few days and i had to supplement for a day. I persisted just like you and he has been exclusively breastfed ever since. .. though now also eating solids. He’s healthy, chunky and happy and we have a wonderful bond. Your son is beautiful God bless him.

    1. Egreis Gjergjani says:

      Awwwww how adorable!!!!! Bless his little heart!

  6. Erica says:

    Thank you so much for this. I have a 5 week old who gets plenty of milk. Now I’ve began to pump and hardly anything comes out. I’m frustrated and concerned I’ll never build a supply. You gave me confidence. Thank you!!

    1. Egreis Gjergjani says:

      So happy to hear that!!

  7. Poppycandy says:

    My little princess is 10 months old and I have been exclusively breastfeeding her the whole time. I am also a stay at home mom so that’s one of the reasons why I decided to breastfeed. I absolutely enjoy nursing my child but I feel like my social life took the back seat. I can’t even bring myself to drinking wine without feeling guilty coz I have to breastfeed my baby. She totally refused the bottle so her only source of milk is my boobs. How do u cope with/without drinking and breastfeeding?

    Xxxx

  8. Cathy says:

    Great Post!

    My baby girl is a month old and Lord knows how difficult the past complete of weeks have been. Breastfeeding isn’t easy but IT DOES get better everyday. I can’t wait till the day I can fully enjoy breastfeeding. For now I am enjoying the look on her face when she ‘s full.

    Thanks for your post

  9. Sandra says:

    Thank you for sharing this. One of the reasons I started following you was because I felt I had a lot in common with you; from the ages of our baby boys (only a week apart) to our ideas about parenting. As a first time mom myself I often find myself doubting myself and thinking that I’m doing something wrong so I seek information and moral support from fellow moms (even if it’s just online) to maintain my sanity and know that I’m not alone. So thank you for putting your story out there and always speaking so candidly about your experience as a first time mom. My breastfeeding story is almost verbatim exactly like yours. So I so have a question for you; since you’re now giving Gio formula during the day (something I been toying with doing with my Jordan) are you pumping during the day again to maintain your supply or to not “pop” as I like to say when I feel too full? I am a working mother and thankfully work from home most if the time but I do still need to pump when I’m away from my baby otherwise I’ll start leaking (not a good look for office attire incidentally). Also, since I’m 10 months post partum and no visit from Aunt Flo ( which I know is due to the nursing) I’m really trying to figure out how to wean baby off the boob. Also, because the hubs and I want to start trying for baby #2 (because I’m nuts) lol! I have to confess that I really think the weaning has to happen on both ends; one for the baby and I also need to wean myself because I have to admit I enjoy it. I enjoy the closeness and the bond with my baby that I think I would miss it. I know I will miss it.

    1. Egreis Gjergjani says:

      Hi Sandra,

      I completely understand. I started slowing down the nursing at night time. Gio used to wake up at night and want to nurse. I stopped doing that. When he wakes up now I just comfort and rock him, but no boobie. This will help slow down your supply. Then little by little it will go down. So no worries there. There might be a day or two of discomfort but it will pass.

  10. Allysha says:

    My baby boy is almost 5 months old! He’s exclusively breast fed. Everything was going great until I returned to work. I’m a registered nurse and I work in a VERY busy ER, so I only get to pump 2-3 times in a 12hr time frame when I’m at work (3 days a week), so that has really taken a toll on my milk supply. I just started drinking Mother’s Milk Tea about 2 days ago. Hopefully I’ll see some improvement in my supply sooner than later. Thank you for all of the tips. My baby is teething big time, hopefully all goes well when his teeth comes in! GREAT post!

  11. Stephanie says:

    It is 3:25am and I’m sitting here pumping Breast milk for my 10 week old who was unable to latch on, so I pump exclusively. After a traumatic birth, emergency C-section for footling breech, his blood sugar was so low they had to give him bottles of formula. I was still recovering from being put out completely for birth. I’ve followd you on Instagram (love my ubbi btw!) and this is my first time on the blog! LOVE IT!! Thank you for the positive vibes!!

    1. Egreis Gjergjani says:

      Hang in there babe! It could have been much worse. The important thing your baby and you are ok! That’s all that matters. Props on doing all that you are to breastfeed him and keep him healthy! Much love.

  12. Vynetta says:

    Hi! I enjoyed reading about your experience. I am interested to know about your weight levels. Do you feel breastfeeding helped with weightloss? I myself came down below my beginning pregnancy weight. Im hoping to gain it back once i stop nursing.
    Sincerely @veemabeauti

  13. Janine says:

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with formula and in some cases it’s 100% necessary. However, it saddens me that that’s the first thing women turn to when thibgs aren’t going to plan. My son was born with a tongue tie that no one discovered (I ended up noticing). He would not latch. The last day in the hopsital, he dropped 10% also and told me that I would not be released until he was fed formula…so I refused. I said “give me a pump”. I pumped for an hour straight to stimulate my breasts with a hospital grade pump…and low and behold…my colostrum came in. I finger fed my son colostrum until that ran out…then my transition milk thru bottles until my milk finally came in. Again, no condeming FF babies, but I just wish hospitals tried informing women correctly and helping them with THEY want instead of a decisiom for them. Also, just so you know for your next LO…babies are born at a fake weight to survive the journey. They can survive three full days without a lick of food.

    There is also isn’t much a chance that a woman can’t produce enough milk or any at all. That usually means that she doesn’t have a proper latch, hasn’t stimulated her breasts properly, isn’t eating the right things, etc. There are a lot of factors to it all and like you mentioned…any form of stress olays a HUGE role in production dropping. However, when a woman is serious…relactation CAN and will happen if the proper steps are taken.

    Don’t listen to women who tell you to not give formula, but transistion to milk. Babies NEED one or the other the whole first year..boobie OR formula. Introducing cows milk here and there is ok, but the vitamins are in the two necessities.

    Keep doing what you’re doing. Being passionate about children’s health and intake is sooooooo necessary and I wish it was taken more seriously by more people. I appreciate that you’re still nursing your little. I miss it sooo much. My son weened himself at 14 months…talk about heartbreaking!

  14. Jyoti says:

    Thanks for sharing your experience. That was brilliant . My boy is 3 months and I am also exclusively breast feeding. I’m considering giving him formula milk only because he is getting up every 2/3 hours during the night. I really don’t want to give him formula was wondering is there anything you would recommend I should do so he goes for a longer stretch. Thank you

  15. Erika says:

    Such a great post, thank you!!

  16. H.P. says:

    I just wanted to say that I love how much you promote breastfeeding and that you do it in a non-judgmental way.

    I didn’t get to breastfeed my son but I did pump for six weeks. At the time I was devastated that I didn’t get him to latch on (he spent a week in NICU where they gave him a bottle and a pacifier). When you’re a new mother and things don’t go as planned it can be heartbreaking. I have come to grips with it though and I realize I did the best I could with my circumstances.

    Anyways. I’m so proud of you for breastfeeding for as long as you have and blogging about it and posting pics of you breastfeeding on instagram.

    Best of wishes to you and your beautiful baby boy Gio.

    XoXo.

  17. Stephanie says:

    Thank you! This is very insightful and inspiring, truly. I wish I had done my homework on breastfeeding before I had my daughter last year. I really went into it blindsided, and took the “advice” of the doctors and nurses way too literal and wound up overwhelming and stressing myself out. My daughter had a great latch, and I had a lot of milk. But between the engorgement, the docs telling me not to pump at all for 6 weeks, and again lack of knowledge, I gave up way too quickly. I pumped until she was over 2 months old, but she was mainly on formula because I just didn’t have enough supply. I cried everyday for 3 months and would apologize to my daughter because I gave up so soon. Even now 15 months later I still wish I could’ve just held and trust that it would get better. Because like you said, the bonding between you and your child is like no other, plus the added health benefits.
    Between reading your experiences and other mothers I’ve gathered some very helpful information, suggestions, & advice on breastfeeding. I really want to go into it the next time around trusting my body and my instincts, and not let others in my head so much. I highly recommend to any mother out there to do your homework prior to baby being born! I love that you share this with all of us, your baby boy is beautiful. Thank you again, you do give me a little bit of hope that it is possible and that every mother goes through ups and downs, it’s definitely not rainbows and sunshine all the time, but when it is it’s beautiful and amazing!!

  18. cece says:

    A while back you posted a instagram picture with a breastfeeding necklace. What is the site to purchase the necklace? The picture isn’t on your page anymore

  19. Kirsten says:

    I wish I would have read this 5 months ago before I started nursing! I learned most of your great advice by trial and error, the hard way 😉 but I will say you are spot on. My experience was very similar to yours with supplementing before my milk came in but I wished I would have stopped using formula sooner. It drastically affected my supply and the more I stressed, the worse it got. One day (right around when I started following you) I just stopped the bottles and nursed exclusively from that point on – it was the best thing I could have done for us.

    My baby girl is 4 1/2 months now and is exclusively on breast milk. I went back to work when she was 2 months old :(. I nurse morning and night with pumping every couple hours during the day. She has been sleeping through the night since she was about 3 weeks old (I can’t even believe I said that out loud lol). But to keep my supply, I pump in the middle of the night too and I don’t give her any bottles while we are together. Between the night pumping and drowning myself in water 😉 I swear that’s the only way I would have enough milk to keep up with this munchkin!

    I know your post will help so many new moms and I’m grateful you share so much of your experience!!

    Xoxo — Kirsten

    PS- Congrats!! Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

  20. Sydney Smith says:

    I don’t know how I came across your instagram page but I am very happy that I did. I love all of your posts, from your shoes to the baby lol. You are so encouraging and uplifting. Well I have been exclusively breastfeeding for almost a month now and I am trying everything under the sun to keep up my supply but with working, going to school and lack of sleep it has been very hard for me and I feel super bad that I may end up having to give her formula, that’s why I’m glad that I came across this post. I wish there were more people like you in the world! Be blessed and congrats on baby#2

  21. lame.butterfly says:

    Very well said! It’s as if you are a medical professional! 🙂

    I am also a breastfeeding and working mom. I got frustrated, too, when breastmilk did not come out 1-4 days after delivery. But since then I exclusively breastfeed my now 4 month old baby. However, it is damn true that breastfeeding while working is hard. I can no longer pump at work but latch on my baby at home. I hope my milk will not diminish until we’re both ready to wean..
    congrats on your new baby and wishing you a joyful breastfeeding journey again!

    Cheers to breastfeeding moms around the world!

    PS I wish you could also meet and greet your fans here in the Philippines.

    xox

  22. Niecey says:

    You are such a great mommy! I was lucky enough to have my mom and aunts around to give me tips on nursing. My milk supply didn’t come in for a week and it was really frustrating. Even with all their help and experiences i felt helpless at times so patience is really the key. I also started drinking mothers milk and took fenugreek and it’s helped with my milk supply. Breastfeeding is definitely work but it’s so rewarding knowing you’re trying and doing the best for your baby.

  23. Ashley says:

    HI!
    I am a mommy to a little boy. I just started reading your blog but Ive followed your IG for a while.. My question is regarding breast augmentation & breast feeding. I have been nursing my son for 16 months now, which I am really happy about. I would love a breast lift & maybe implants but I am worried that I won’t be able to nurse afterward with a second baby. Since you have been successful with that I was hoping you could offer me some advice? Thank you!!

  24. Azniv says:

    Hello, I’ve been a long time follower of your instagram and blog. Thank you for all the helpful tips and advice!! I actually started ordering Holle formula for my daughter a few months ago from the weblink you provided. I just went in to order again but looks like they ran out of both stage 2 and 3 Holle. I’m starting to panic sonce my daughter really loves this formula, and I don’t know where else I can order. Do you happen to know another foreign website that sells this formula and ships to US? Your response will make me so happy

    1. Egreis Gjergjani says:

      Hi Azniv,

      I don’t. 🙁
      If you know anyone in UK, they can buy it on amazon and send it to you.

      Egreis

  25. Diana says:

    Can you please tell me what oil lotion did you use during pregnancy for stretch marks ?? Please share ?

    1. Egreis Gjergjani says:

      I didn’t use any. I believe it’s a emetic thing so you either get them or you don’t. People have told me that the clarins yellow oil has helped them with their stretch marks so you might want to check that one out!

  26. Melinda says:

    I am 29 weeks pregnant with my second child. Another little girl and we have decided to name her Alexandra. I was extremely frustrated about breastfeeding when I had my first daughter (Victoria) about 5 years ago, because my body was not producing enough, so I had to use formula in place of breastmilk after about 2 months ago.

    Now that I am 29 weeks and getting back into the swing of things of having a baby in the house. I have been reading as much as possible on milk production and what to do to help me along as much as possible.

    Thank you very much for sharing your journey, it helps moms like myself!

    Melinda

  27. Yennifer says:

    Hey Egreis!
    Can you tell us which books you read while you were pregnant? I cannot seem to find any that I like… Please and thank you!!