Ugly is Beautiful

Beauty | Jul 22, 2014

ugly is beautiful

Ever looked at someone’s pictures online, or seen them on TV, wondering how the hell they can be so beautiful? Questioning why couldn’t that be you? Torturing yourself by looking at that person even more, feeling worse and worse on the inside. I promise you this….even that girl you find so perfect has felt like you feel now at some point in her life, and I promise you it’s more often than you can ever imagine. We are all beautiful. We are all ugly. One day or another. So as you sit there and scroll through her pictures, trying to find any imperfections…heck even ONE thing that is not so perfect about her…realize that she is probably doing the same or has done what you are now doing at some point in her life. Because there isn’t one person who hasn’t felt ugly at some point in their life. Question is what do you do about it? That’s what determines your future.

When it comes to confidence…fake it till you make it. It is a learned trait. No one popped out from their momma feeling confident. We’ve all had to struggle with our image…comparing ourselves to the thin girl on TV, wishing we had a head full of thick, long hair, hoping for a little more height, slimmer looking waist, just a tiny bit more boobs, wishing for more ass. Yes we are all guilty of that. You are not alone. Even the most confident girl or woman you look up to has a. had to learn how to become confident and b. still has moments she feels defeated and yes, UGLY.

But a little ugliness in life goes a long way. It’s what humbles us; what makes us better; what makes us kinder; friendly; and overall human. There is nothing wrong with ugly. Because even the most beautiful human being on earth..there is someone out there who deems her unattractive so you are damn right there is someone else who finds your ugly traits the absolute perfection there is.

I’d like to think I’m confident. And if I’m not really it, I am damn good at faking it. I have learned. It took years, but I have learned. Don’t get me wrong…I still have weak moments pretty much weekly, but I can live with that. I’m not an expert on beauty, nor do I know how to empower others; I never tried to be inspirational, nor will i ever try to…but like you I know what it feels like to not feel beautiful. I have been there. And I go there every now and then. It’s okay. A little ugly is necessary. I promise you that.

I hated my nose for the longest. But if anyone made a comment about it I would always say “Oh i love it. It makes me look ethnic”. Ya…f*ck no. I hated it. Looked like Mount Everest with bad avalanche. As soon as I could, I shaved my bump off and I am glad I did. I’m not saying you need surgery to fix yourself. I’m bringing it up to tell you that even now after a nose job, I STILL have days where I swear I see my nose the same way I used to prior to rhinoplasty. So what was the point of it all? The way we view ourselves is mental. It’s all in our head. The actual way we look has little to do with it.

Have you ever looked at a picture of you and thought it was cute until you started looking at it way too long and all of a sudden you think you look ugly? That happens to me all the time. Those damn filters on IG…i start with a picture thinking “okay I look alright here” to “eww i’m not posting this”. Same concept works for your overall image.  We spend so much time looking at ourselves daily that we begin to see something different than what there actually is; missing all of the real beauty; focusing so hard on trying to find the ugly parts that we begin to feel ugly ourselves.

There are days I wake up and I just do not feel pretty. There are days I wake up and think i’m fuck*n gorgeous. Heck, it’s a roller coaster, this whole “Am I Pretty?!” thing. But rather than fight it, accept it, for every pretty girl you see has those same ugly days. Do not let the pictures fool you. We are all insecure at some point in our life. If it makes you feel any better, know that studies show that women seen as “beautiful” by society’s standards of beauty are far more self conscious and have far lower self esteems than the rest.

So toast to your ugliness today. It is beautiful to someone else. Tomorrow it will be beautiful to you yourself.

It’s 1.32 AM and I am wired as sh*t. Excuse my profanity on this post but every now and then it’s healthy. I had about 3 cups of coffee today and I am convinced there’s crack in it. Before I wrote this I was counting sheep in bed. I gave up after 1000. Before that, I was tweeting. Feels like I was on myspace. Hadn’t been on there in months website here. I don’t even know why I even have followers on there. I digress. Point is, I am so dang wired that I wanted to take this moment and uplift someone out there. You’re fucking beautiful. And if you don’t see it, you’re a damn fool. A beautiful fool though. I’m not going to sit here and tell you beauty comes from the inside and blah blah…yes that’s true. We know that. But the physical aspect of it is in your HEAD. Change your thoughts. You’ll change the way you look. Because ultimately it’s how you see yourself that has to change. The world already sees you as beautiful.

Sweet Dreams,
Egreis Gjergjani
one day ugly, one day beautiful.

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  1. Ahhh!! You’re such a breath of fresh air. I just love the way you come across, so natural! You just say it as it is and you are right. It starts with your thoughts. Change your thoughts, change your life! It’s all about how you see yourself, how God sees you. And He has already said, you are fearfully and WONDERFULLY made! We are alll beautiful, we just need to remember to think, say and BELIEVE that! Great Post! xxX

  2. rafaela says:

    Hi hun,i want to thank you so much for this time you took to write this..I am one of the those people..I see those girls with gorgeous bodies,and feel ugly,waste of space! If I see my fiance looking at a woman I feel even worse and we get into an argument..I know it sound silly,but that how I am unfortunately! I have 2 beautiful boys,one of them is the same age as Gio..everyone says how good I look after having 2 kids,I fit into clothes that I wore when I was 18,I’m going to be 30 in September.. I don’t see the beauty that others see in me! I wish I could have a nice round butt,instead of what I have! My fiance does not complain and he likes it,but sometimes I think that he says what he says just to make me feel good about my self…that’s what I think…so babe I want to thank you for this post and I thought about it,you are so right in what you said,but in my head it’s hard to excepted lol….

    Thanks once again for the post!

  3. Barbie says:

    Hi, my name’s Barbie and I follow you on Instagram. I’ve never visited your blog before, but your post brought me here this morning. I truly loved this piece as you are so on point. It’s amazing how someone I don’t even know can identify so closely to how I feel. You are amazing! Thank you for sharing these beautiful, heartfelt words. I really needed to see this. Thank you, thank you, thank you! You rock and you are BEAUTIFUL!

  4. Nat says:

    I absolutely love this! Just beautiful. Thank you for this!! ❤️

  5. Deanna F. says:

    Ahhhh I just loved this post, great day to start my morning!! The daily struggle lol. Enjoy your day!!! Xo

  6. Same Sarah says:

    You’re fucking awesome

  7. Kelsey D says:

    I freaking love you, beautiful xx

  8. Mirjana says:

    You’re awesome. And beautiful every day!

  9. Jasmine says:

    For someone who is quite confident (like myself) would even find this to be very refreshing. Thank you for this.
    xoxo

  10. Eve says:

    You are a great soul….thanks for the awesome words. Love how real and awesome you are…..God bless!

  11. Katia says:

    I looooveeeeee it!!!! when i see your posts here and instagram i feel like a better person jajaja im not joking, i like the way you think and visualize your dreams, etc.. besides i feel so identify with you, keep it up! blessings 🙂

  12. Donna says:

    LOVE this post. I have a quote tattooed on my back from Sophia Loren. It is this blog it a sentence.

    “Nothing makes a woman more beautiful than the belief that she is beautiful.”

    It’s all about CONFIDENCE!

  13. Adrianna says:

    Thank you. I needed that.

  14. Nery says:

    Just what I needed to read! I’m 10 weeks post partum with our 4th child… A beautiful girl who I’m in live with however this pregnancy seems to have wrecked my figure! I feel “ugly” most days, esp those when I don’t shower till hubby is home from work!! He tells me I look beautiful but I don’t feel it. Looking at your IG and blog I would have never thought someone so pretty would ever have some of the same feelings .. Thanks for posting and reminding me to not be so hard on myself and that I’m not the only one! Your posts are so helpful!

  15. laura says:

    Hello sweety
    I love following you and I love your shoes … Some how I identify myself with you …gio is the cutest baby ever

  16. Devon says:

    You are amazing and inspiring a breath of fresh air to hear someone actually say this out loud! Thanks for the beautiful words; we all are to hard on ourselves sometimes this was beautiful! <3

    1. Egreis Gjergjani says:

      Thank you so much Devon